Here's the next part of the encounter with the puzzle guy (in my previous post), this is the guy who is courting my friend back in Manila.
My friend seems to have a lot of complaints about him :p
'..imagine ilan days n and2 d pa kmi nagmemeet.once palang tumawag sa landline.puro text...eh d parng same lang dba? ang diff lang eh piso nalang ang rep nya sakin..'
I was in giggle when I saw this msg from her, yeah difference is piso na lng ang txt haha. :p Somehow I can understand the guy, managing schedules during short vacation back home is quite tough, so few time, so much things to do. It takes a lot of effort to squeeze quality time.
On a later time she ym-ed me their long conversation which ended up in tampuhan. I actually cant quite comprehend what was happening. It appears that this girl was talking about something, and the guy doesnt seem to be listening and not responding to the topic and talking about something else. Well for a fact, men dont listen as good as women anyway. She also told me that she finds something annoying about how the guy makes kwento, he is giving too much inessential details and the more important ones are always being left out.
I thought my friend was just being too hard on this guy. When a girl really falls hard, she won't notice and will ignore and tolerate all flaws. However if there's not even a single spark, she can find a hundred reasons to say he is unbearable. :p The second seems to apply in their situation.
Then I realize I was wrong :p
This guy is the talky type, he yms me during office hours and asks me my reaction about their situation blah blah. It was okay, medyo naawa din ako sa knya. Here is a guy who is trying his very best to woo a girl, but somehow not reciprocated. The patience to really hold on to uncertainty, the daily sms para manligaw etc. That deserves a rebulto I would jokingly say.
Then came a time when I was feeling bad about some incidents. Sakto he ym-ed me, so medyo nagkwento ako why I was upset. Initially it was ok-ok, he seemed to listen well. Just that he joked back saying I'm bitter and started making fun calling me names. Then he apologized and offered that maybe I need someone to talk to and asked me if I'm free the next day. I said okay.
We met up for dinner the next day. Then I did notice his 'strange' way of story telling. He is really giving too much info hehe, he'll mention ALL the names eg his friends, whom he met up with in a party, what they ordered etc. He'll describe each of the friend, the names of the gfs or spouses.. Hmm I was thinking.. hold on, we just met, I hardly know you and I dont know your friends? Actually to be fair, this is not really a no-no trait, some can still get away with it and be considered 'cute' or 'funny', only if you got the looks and the attitude that people can possibly overlook odd traits. However not everyone is part of the lucky few exceptions.
Then he related his past stories. Like the last girl who dumped her. Out of the blue, this girl texted him one day (last year) and said she needed a companion. That sounded to me like a positive start. Then started their frequent encounters. He was this martyr guy who makes hatid-sundo and gives her midnight snacks in her office (she's on night shift). It went for like months - that was too long for a courtship. Then one day the girl told her she didnt feel comfortable with what he's doing. My guess is probably his motives were not apparently obvious and he just went on with his martyr actions without a clear picture of where it was leading to.
Then when it was my turn to kwento, I just elaborated the reasons why I was upset and that I even cried about those stuff. The dinner was okay, it's the first time I get to know him face to face, though not my type, but I wont consider very annoying as a first impression.
Later that night he ym-ed me that they were in 'tampuhan' mode again. And again sent me their long conversation in ym. (whoo why did I suddenly become Dear Joe, Dear Charo or Dr Phil for this couple). This ym was quite funny. They were arguing about something and he then he asked my friend to sleep. 'Alam mo nakakataba ang stress, tulog ka na'. Why did you say that? He said sya rin nagsabi na iremind ko cya magdiet at matulog nang maaga. I replied, kahit na! My friend is not slim, she is chubby! And probably every guy should know that any girl in this world wouldnt want to be associated with anything fat? It probably wont be offending when you are talking with anorexic or obviously thin people, but to relatively bigger sized people, this is a killer.
Before the conversation ended, he asked me again about my case. And to my surprise, he again did the same thing, laughed at me and called me names like bitter and ampalaya. That's it. I was pissed off. I said not funny, stop it! Deep inside I was thinking, I already told you that I even cried and how could you be so rude to make fun out of it!
He apologized several times. I wasnt really hurt much anyway since a new acquaintance won't have that much impact on me.
Few days after, he was in depression. He said my friend said, it's better na we stay as friends muna, kasi hindi mo nadedeliver ang mga expectations ko. Hehe what a choice of words, I never heard anyone declining with those terms, napaka-formal naman. Sounded like office blues, sorry boss I cant deliver your expectations. :) It's partly harsh and partly funny. Since I dont want to piss him off further, I just said 'be glad, probably it's not yet the right time, it's not really a basted statement yet (notice that there is the word MUNA), there's still some hope, maybe in the future'.
I refrain talking to him too often since I'm also quite busy nowadays, ayoko na maging Dr Phil, too depressing. :p
He does have a big problem which he might still be unaware of. He is INSENSITIVE!
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